A few months ago God awakened me out of my sleep and starting speaking to my spirit. He told me how the enemy wants to destroys marriages, and how he is deceiving others. How Satan’s desire is for husbands and wives to believe his lies about marriage, instead of biblical truth… for he is a liar and the father of lies (John 8:44).

I started writing down everything God was telling me, and a couple of weeks later my husband and I made a video to share our knowledge with others. Just in case you missed the video, I want to share with you in this post 10 lies that Satan will try to use to destroy your marriage.

1) There’s someone greater out there for you other than your spouse 

Don’t let the enemy lead you to believe that the grass is greener on the other side. The truth is no one is perfect, we all have flaws. Leaving your marriage to find someone else would mean trading out one imperfect spouse for another imperfect spouse. If you’re thinking, “Well you just don’t know my husband and what he’s done.” Let me encourage you to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Learn to see him the way God does. That’s the person you committed to be with for the rest of your life, there is no back-up plan.

2) Your spouse doesn’t really love you

Satan wants you to believe that you’re not good enough, pretty enough, or smart enough to be loved. That’s a lie straight from hell. I don’t care who you are or what you’ve done, you are still worthy to be loved by your spouse and by God.

3) Marriage should be easy

The truth is if marriage was easy you would never grow as a person. God uses the struggles in our marriages to teach us how to love, forgive, be compassionate, and become more like Him. In this world you will have trouble…(John 16:33). 

4) Your marriage is too damaged to be fixed

No matter how broken your marriage is right now, I want you to know that God is a God who restores, renews, repairs, and revives. My husband and I are a living testimony that God can take a damaged marriage and make it better than ever before.

5) You should treat your spouse the way he/she treats you 

The truth is even if your spouse isn’t treating you the way he/she should, you are still commanded to love the way Christ does, be respectful, be forgiving, etc. You should give 100% to your marriage even if your spouse isn’t. To the world that sounds foolish, but to God it is honorable.  If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? (Matt 5:46).

6) It’s not adultery if you don’t make it physical 

JESUS said that if you look upon a woman and lust after her, you have already committed adultery in your heart (Matt 5:28). So stay away from pornography, dating websites, chat groups, etc. You should never be looking outside of your marriage to have your needs fulfilled.

7) It’s better to lie than to tell the truth

You may think that lying is better when you know the truth can deeply hurt your spouse, but eventually the truth will come out. For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open (Luke 8:17). My husband kept secrets from me for a long time, and when the truth finally came out, it almost destroyed our marriage.

8) Your spouse will never change

The truth is anyone can become a new creation through Christ. My husband has gone from someone who struggled with pornography and sex addiction, to a man who has submitted   his heart to Christ. He now goes to church, prays, reads the Bible, and has given up all his old ways. He’s not perfect, but God has done a work in him and He can do the same in your spouse.

9) You can never love your spouse the way you did in the beginning

This is probably one of the lies I believed the most. For years I thought to myself, “I just can’t get my feelings back for my husband.” But once we made the choice to have frequent date nights and spend quality time together, my feelings came back. I love him more now than I ever did. But the key is learning to love even when you don’t feel like it. The more love you pour into your marriage, the more love you will feel.

10) You’re not cut out to be a husband or wife

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” (Gen 2:18). God has designed men and women to be together. Being a husband or wife isn’t easy. I believe it’s one of the most challenging things in life, but it’s also one of the best experiences as well.

If you’re believing any of these lies, I want to encourage you to study God’s word, pray, and let the Lord renew your mind.

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