This past Sunday was Easter, a time that Christians all over the world celebrated the resurrection of Jesus Christ. As I thought about how Jesus gave His all for us, I questioned how many people (including myself), actually give their all for Him. For we know that Jesus said the greatest commandment is to “Love the Lord your God with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind” (Luke 10:27).  But one of the reasons we don’t give our all, is because we have become lazy lovers. We love God, but we become too lazy to pray, too lazy to worship, too lazy to attend church, too lazy to read the Bible, and too lazy to do what God has called us to do. Just like laziness can prevent us from having a strong relationship with the Lord, laziness can prevent us from having a great marriage also.

Have you become a lazy lover in your marriage? Think about all the things you used to do when you first met your spouse. I bet you used to plan date nights, buy gifts for no occasion, dress to impress, and kiss him/her all the time. But somewhere along the road you got lazy. Can you honestly say that now you take the time and energy to make your spouse feel special? Do you kiss your spouse before leaving the house? Ladies, do you put on makeup, fix your hair, and throw on some sexy lingerie to impress your husband? Men, do you open up doors for your wife like you did when you two were dating? And how about sex? Have you both become so lazy that you don’t take the time to have sex? Or maybe you don’t do those special things during sex like you used to.

Now I know that life can get busy and sometimes become overwhelming; especially when you work, take care of kids, and always have chores, but we can’t neglect our marriages. If you’re too tired to spend time with your spouse because you’ve been running around all day, then maybe you need to take some things off your schedule. It’s important that we learn how to prioritize. Your relationship with God should be first and foremost, then comes your husband, your kids, and your ministry. Ask yourself these questions: “Why am I so tired all the time? Where am I spending all my time and energy?” If your marriage isn’t part of the answer, then you need to make some changes.

Did you know that there are 168 hours in one week? If you work 40 hours, and sleep 8 hours a night, then you still have 72 hours a week left for other things. You can do a lot in 72 hours! You have to make time for God! You have to make time for your marriage! It’s time that we stop being lazy lovers! God’s love for us produced actions. That means that He loved us so much He sent His only son to die on the cross for our sins. Does your love produce actions too? If you love your spouse then you have to show it. “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth” (1 John 3:18). 

I encourage you all to consider the areas of your life where you have become lazy, and then pray that God will help you be motivated to do better.

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