I was only eighteen years old the day I said “I do” in front of all my family and friends. And just like any other bride, I dreamed that I would live happily ever after. But now almost ten years later, I realize that marriage is about much more than just happiness. I’ve learned that being committed to another person for the rest of your life, is one of the most challenging things that anyone could ever experience. Yes marriage has brought me happiness, but more important than that, it has made me more like Christ.

Back in 2014, my husband and I were headed towards divorce. We had been struggling for a long time, and we had little hope that our marriage could survive. My husband admitted to pornography addiction, infidelity, and other sins. I wanted to leave, I wanted to give up, but I just knew that divorce couldn’t be God’s plan for my life. I had a choice to make; I could walk away from my marriage, or I could be like Jesus and learn to love unconditionally.

After crying out to God, and begging for His guidance, I knew what I had to do. I had to allow God to completely transform me as a wife, so I could think and love like Christ. For God’s word says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will (Rom 12:2).

After God transformed me as a wife, I learned to love my husband through all his imperfections. I learned to forgive the way God forgives me. I learned to focus on the positive things in my marriage rather than the negative ones. It was if God had taken a blind fold off my eyes, and I could finally see marriage the way He designed it. It was never meant to be some fairytale that we see on the movie screen. Marriage was designed to be a perfect example of just how much Jesus loves us through all our sins, failures, and disappointments.

Once my husband seen the changes in me, He too wanted to be transformed. He gave his heart to Christ, became a new creation, and our marriage was completely restored. We aren’t perfect, and we don’t have a perfect marriage, but we love each other the way God loves us.

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