About 8 months ago I quit my job as a nurse and I became a server. Since I’ve been a server I’ve had a lot of guys flirt with me, ask me for my phone number, or ask me if I’m married. I always politely let them know I’m happily married and go on about my day. A few weeks ago I had a comment that changed my day. This young guy sat at one of my tables, and I noticed that he was watching me work. When I walked up to the table to refill his drink, he looked me in the eyes and he said, “You are so beautiful!” I replied, “Thank you.” and walked away. Afterwards I noticed that I couldn’t stop smiling. Not because I was attracted to this guy in any way, but it made me feel good that someone called me beautiful. I immediately started thinking about my husband. I thought to myself, “If one comment from a complete stranger could change my day, then how much more could one comment from me change my husband’s day?” Then I started thinking about how I would feel if someone complimented my husband and I didn’t put forth the effort to do so myself. So I decided to send my husband a text just to let him know I was thinking of him and how handsome he is.

My husband and I have a great marriage, but just like anyone else sometimes we get busy and forget to say the little things that mean so much. I know my husband thinks I’m beautiful even if he doesn’t tell me every day. And my husband knows I think he’s handsome even if I don’t tell him every day. But I think it’s important in marriage to remind each other of certain things. My husband’s love language is words of affirmation so he likes to hear things like: “I love you.” I’m proud of you.” Thank you for working hard.” I appreciate you.” etc. My love language is physical touch, but I still love to hear words that build me up. “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up…(1 Thess 5:11). 

Another reason I believe it’s so important to compliment one another in marriage is because Satan is tricky and he is always scheming. He might send the person you used to have a crush on in high school to hit on you the very day you and your spouse get in a huge fight. Often times I hear of affairs starting all because of words. I’ve heard things like, “She made me feel appreciated and my wife didn’t.” or “He made me feel beautiful and my husband never told me I was pretty.” This is all tricks from the enemy. “Be sober-minded, be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8).

I want to encourage you all to speak kind words to your spouse, words that will make your spouse smile, and to compliment your spouse every day. “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body”(Proverbs 16:24). 

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