Every time I read the story of Moses in the Bible, it amazes me of how many excuses he made to try to get out of what God commanded him to do. When God told Moses He was going to send him to Pharaoh so that he could deliver the Israelites out of Egypt, Moses replied, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the children of Israel out of Egypt?”(Exodus 3:11). Then he said to God, “What if they don’t believe me or listen to me?” (Exodus 4:1)” He even tried to use his speech problem as an excuse; “I am slow of speech and tongue.”(Exodus 4:10). And this got me thinking about marriage, and how so many people make excuses of why they can’t follow God’s commandments on how to act as a husband or wife.

So many times I have heard comments like, “Well my husband don’t respect me, so I’m not going to respect him.”, or “Well my wife don’t show me no love so I’m not going to show her none.” If you find yourself saying things like this or justifying ungodly actions, let me just say this to you, there is absolutely NO scripture in the Bible that excuses us from obeying God’s commandments! When you stand before God you will be accountable for YOUR actions. You will be accountable for how you treat your spouse. “So then, each of us will give account of ourselves to God.” (Rom. 14:12). That means that as a Christian you are expected to do what’s right in the eyes of God even when your spouse isn’t.

Wives, you are called to respect your husband. “Let the wife see that she respects her husband ” (Eph 5:33). Husbands, you are called to love your wife. “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”(Eph 5:25). In marriage you are commanded to not deprive your spouse of sex. “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer.”(1 Cor. 7:5). 

When my marriage had fallen apart, and my husband was caught up in an adulterous affair, I could have easily made an excuse to move on. I could have easily said, “Well my husband and I aren’t happy anymore, my husband isn’t living for God, or he’s given up so I can too.” But instead I chose a much better path. I chose to rise up and be the better person. I chose to dig deep into Scripture and learn what it would take to be a Christ like wife. I chose to surrender to God and allow Him to transform my heart and mind. I chose to love my husband, forgive my husband, and show grace to my husband, because that is what God requires from me. Even through the hurt, the pain, and the confusion, I chose to be a wife that pleases and honors God. My goal in life is to obey Him first and foremost, and there is no excuse for me not to.

Will you make that commitment today? Will you commit to obey God’s Biblical principles, and become the husband or wife God has called you to be, no matter what? It’s time to stop making excuses and start making changes, your marriage depends on it.

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